I like winter and enjoyed the snow this year. Throughout this season, when it wasn’t too cold, I got outside and played.
Recently, when I discovered that a friend of mine likes to ice skate, I was delighted. Even though I haven’t been for a very long time, I used to enjoy it. When she said she wasn’t very good, I figured that we would be a perfect match.
We planned a time and place. In anticipation of our date, I tried to remember the last time I had gone and figured it must have been 20 years!
At the rink, I put my skates on and attempted to stand up. Wow, I didn’t remember that I felt this shaky before but figured I’d do better once I got on the ice! NOT!!! I held onto the sides of the rink for dear life trying to get my balance but knew if I let go, I’d be “skating” on another part of my anatomy. So, without letting go, I skated back and forth on the wall.
My friend was ever so patient with me. It turns out she was a lot better skater than she had let on. She finally suggested that they use walkers (you know, the kind with the tennis balls on the bottom that the elderly use) when they’re teaching tricks on the ice and said she’d check to see if they had one I could use. They did! So here I was going back and forth ice skating with a walker. I’m thankful no one had a camera and luckily, we had the rink to ourselves.
My point in telling this humiliating story about myself is acceptance. For me it was accepting that it’s okay if I can’t or don’t ice skate anymore. But even more importantly, witnessing how accepting my friend was even though she could have skated rings around me. She stayed with me and was very patient.
How different an experience it would have been if I had beat myself up because I couldn’t do it or if she had been upset with me. Instead, we had a nice time together, got to spend time outdoors, and got some exercise.
My Releasing The Ties That Bind BizTV Shows® talk about acceptance this month; just letting go and accepting life as it is. Have you had an experience lately that would have gone easier if you had given up the fight and just accepted?